I hear you. My wife and I bought a 4-acre hobby farm with a rock house and spent a lot of sweat rehabbing it. We have a pond, a stream, and a small orchard, and lots of gardens. Our house is an investment - in our sanity. Here is our story: https://medium.com/illumination/building-a-life-we-dont-need-a-vacation-from-3ea85054ed24?sk=d99e82a8c8c639a146f9f8b72ab896cd